I lost my dad in 2022, and navigating my own grief has been tough enough. But now, my daughter is getting to an age where her curiosity is abundant, and I’m finding myself with new bridges to cross. At the time of his death, she was only 15 months old – now, approaching 5, she is full of questions. And she is full of her own grief when it comes to losing him.

As a family, we have consulted a variety of folks for help. I’ve spoken to friends who have walked a similar path of loss, we’ve consulted religious leaders to help us craft Biblical responses that are age appropriate, and partnered with teachers to help my kids honor their grandpa in a healthy way. But even with all of our effort, we often don’t have the answers.

Here is a recent conversation between myself and my daughter for context:

P: “Did Tuggy die?”
Me: “Yes, baby … Tuggy is dead.”
P: “Did we bury him?”
Me: “Yes, we buried him.”
P: “Did he turn to dust?”
Me: “… *silent* …”

I was so caught off guard by her question. There was fear if I told her yes, it would complicate her understanding of his death because we often talk about how he is with Jesus. I didn’t know if her little brain could rationalize how his body here on her earth was no more, but he was made whole in Heaven. I didn’t want to confuse her, and I also didn’t want to lie. It is in moments like this I realize my toddler’s grief is much more complex than I can grasp – maybe even more complex than my own.

While we don’t always have a clear path forward, here are some great “go-to” resources in times where we need a helping hand to guide us in our explanations or comfort.
The resources above are geared toward younger children/toddlers because that is the phase of life I am currently in. But children of all ages need support, so here are a few other links that may be helpful to you and your kiddo during this difficult journey.

Books for Grieving Children: Allina Health

Grief Books for Kids Ages 7-12: Eluna Resource Center

Suggested Reading List: Winston’s Wish

Using Books to Help Students Through Grief, Loss, and Healing

If you have any other suggestions, please feel free to reach out to Waco Moms directly or leave your thoughts in the comments below! We believe the more information we can provide on these types of subjects, the better. Remember, you are not alone in your walk with grief. And you are doing a good job mama!

** Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist. All of these suggestions are just that, suggestions. Waco Moms values being a resource and a guide, but we are not here to offer medical advice. Please consult your pediatrician to answer questions and seek out a local therapist who specializes in children for more help navigating this difficult subject.

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